The Unparalleled Legacy of My Idol
A Tribute to Susan Tose Spencer
I have often heard the cautionary expression, "Don't meet your idols," as they can't possibly live up to the expectations we create in our minds. However, what if your idol is someone as extraordinary as your own mother? In my case, my mother, Susan Tose Spencer, is a living legend who has not only inspired me but has left an indelible mark on the lives of many.
Let's dive into why my mother is my idol, starting from the present and working our way backward through the highlights of her incredible journey.
Currently, my mother is bravely living with dementia. This, in itself, speaks volumes about her character and the valuable lessons she has imparted to me and my children. Her resilience, determination, ambition, and gratitude for every day are qualities that shine through, even in the face of a challenging disease like dementia.
As I spend precious moments with her, I share my experiences, including my business endeavors focused on encouraging children to read books and play sports—passions deeply embedded in our family's DNA. A former teacher, my mother instilled in me the belief that reading is the best coping skill, making you not only interesting but also confident enough to achieve anything you set your mind to.
One remarkable chapter in her life unfolded when, in her 30s, she pursued law school and won the prestigious moot court competition, surpassing students decades younger than her. This achievement alone could earn her the admiration of many, but there's more to the story.
A sports enthusiast, my mother and I share a love for discussing sports, particularly the achievements of her grandson, Leo, and his varsity football team. Despite being unable to attend games in person due to her physical strength, I make sure to share pictures and videos, knowing she would be the loudest cheerleader if she could.
A hint about my mother—she loves professional football and was once an expert in the field. Watching her talk to my kids about making a positive difference through charity work and continuing a legacy of giving back is a source of inspiration.
My mother, Susan Tose Spencer, was not just a philanthropist on a small scale; she, along with my grandfather, coined the saying 'go big or go home.' Her involvement in raising millions for underserved communities to play sports and supporting charities like The Ronald McDonald Houses is a testament to their commitment to making a significant impact.
Despite her declining health and the challenges of communicating, my mother's presence is a constant source of gratitude. She instilled in us the Latin phrase "ESSE Quam Videri," meaning to be rather than seem to be—a testament to her genuine acceptance of everyone.
Susan Tose Spencer, to this day, holds the title of the first and only female General Manager of a professional football team. Her legacy is not idle; she continues to inspire, and I am proud to be her daughter, privileged to share her story with you. My mother, a true idol, remains a beacon of strength, resilience, and generosity—a living legend who has left an indelible mark on the world.
